HOW TO HELP A SHY CHILD

First of all, are you sure your child really is shy? Some children like to size up a situation before they jump in. Caution should not be misunderstood as shyness. Don't call your child "shy". Studies have shown that often a child will grow to fit a label. Parental pressure on the shy child can cause anxiety and insecurity, leading to a worse problem with shyness. Don't push your child to achieve above his or her individual level. Never compare your shy child with other children in a negative way. And never allow anyone else to hurt your child in this way. Take your child's ideas seriously. By lessening the importance of a child's concerns you lessen the child. Encourage your shy child to get involved in activities with others. Don't allow too many isolating activities, like watching TV. Never push your shy child to do things he or she would find unbearable. Rather, make suggestions, but realize your child may not be ready. Be patient. You need not handle your shy child with kid gloves, but be aware of how he feels and show that you understand.